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I did a search on Google and found some pretty interesting statistics.  I discovered that over 50 million Americans suffer from a diagnosable mental disorder in a given year.  The causes ranged from depression to eating disorders.  As I read that, I was pretty shocked.  I began to analyze these findings.  Then I realized that something stood out.  It became clear that it said that over 50 million people were diagnosed, what about those lost individuals that had not been diagnosed?  I mean there are people who have a problem that don't even realize that it's an illness.  There are individuals out there that are not being treated properly.

Having self esteem issues can put a burden on many areas of your life.  If left untreated, it can lead to other health related issues.  Depression spells, anxiety attacks, loss of sleep and the list goes on.  Your job performance may be affected.  Your relationship with family and friends may be affected.  Having a low self esteem is a pretty serious issue.  With all that being said, how does in individual start the road to overcoming a low self esteem?  How does someone build up the courage and energy to not only admit that they have a problem or illness but to also seek out the help that they need?

Are you tired of the crying spells?  Are you tired of feeling inferior to the rest of the world?  Does it seem as if life has dealt you a bad hand?  No matter what you try to accomplish, it seems as if you always tend to fall short of your goals.  You constantly feel as if you will never get ahead in life.  You have constant feelings of not being "good enough".  Your troubled past relationships continue to sabotage your present relationships.  You constantly cry out asking that Higher Power when will it end?  You ask yourself daily what have you done to deserve any of this? 

You Can't Change Your Past, But You Can Better Your Future.

I have great news for you.  News that will end the tears.  News that will end all the doubt.  News that will have you holding your head up high feeling new again.  There is light at the end of the tunnel.  The doorway of happiness lies in front of you, but you must take the initiative  to walk towards it.  You must take it upon yourself to open the door and walk through it.  You have to be the one to say enough is enough.  You have to put it in your mind that you deserve better.  You have to believe that second best is not good for you.  This is not the hand that life has dealt you.  Your relationships with family, friends, and other loved ones were not meant to suffer.  You must believe that you HAVE a purpose in life.

Yesterdays suffering and pain are today's acts of encouragement.  Failure is fuel for success.  Never look back; only look forward.  There in front of you lies the finish line.  The finish line that you have desperately seeking.  Strive to reach that line.  Once you cross it, there you will find a life of complete happiness and fulfillment.  Here's to your success and happiness.

Sincerely,

R.Grisby

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Improve Your Self Confidence In 15 Minutes

I used to be frighteningly under confident in social situations. And although people who know me now would never believe I used to doubt myself so much I literally had to learn confidence until it became a natural part of me. I can tell you relaxed optimistic confidence is just, well so much more fun.

Here I'll tell you about the things that made the most difference to my confidence levels...

Some people have naturally high levels of confidence but everybody can learn to be more confident

Firstly, it's important to get a clear idea of what self confidence really means, otherwise you won't know when you've got it! So, self confidence means:

1) Being calm. For every situation in life you need to run on the appropriate level of emotion. Too much emotional 'leakage' into a experience can spoil the experience. You make great strides towards confidence when you begin to relax in a greater range of situations.

2) Being cool. The second part of self confidence is about being able to relax with uncertainty. To be 'cool' in a situation really means relaxing with not knowing how things will pan out. If you truly tolerate uncertainty, you can do pretty much anything.

3) Not being too concerned with what others think of you. You know when you imagine what some place is going to be like before you go there but when you get there it is totally different to your imagination? That's how reliable your imagination is! Stop trusting your imagination so much. I've long since stopped bothering to imagine what others think of me because so often I've turned out to be wrong.

4) Being specific - where do you want confidence? 'Confidence' is meaningless until you tie it to something specific. You are already confident that you can read these words or can switch a light on and off. So you don't need more confidence everywhere. To get what you want in life you have to establish exactly what you do want. Where do you want confidence in your life? Think about the specific situations now and write them down. You beginning to steer your brain towards confidence.

5) Understanding that what you expect is what you get. Your brain is an organ that needs clear goals to work towards. When a task has been set in your brain it will do everything it can do to bring about the completion of that task. If you've tried to recall someone's name but can't, hours later you'll often find their name pops into your head.

The 'trying to recall' experience set the task or blueprint for your brain's future subconscious behavior which eventually produced the name for you - when you weren't thinking about it consciously. You can use this natural mechanism to start feeling more confident. But, to ensure you set the right task for your subconscious mind, the next point is vital.

6) Don't task your mind with negatives. Instead of: 'I don't want to screw up' (which sets the task of 'screwing up' for your brain), set the blueprint for what you do want! Your brain doesn't work towards what to do by being told what not to do. And nature has given you a wonderful natural tool to set the right task blueprints with.

7) Use nature's goal-setter: Now you understand how vital it is to set the right task for you brain, you need to know how to do this reliably. Good hypnosis will strongly 'program' the right blueprint in your mind through the use of your imagination. If you powerfully imagine feeling confident and relaxed while in a relaxed hypnotic state it will be hard for your unconscious mind to do anything else. The blueprint for relaxation has been set firmly into your subconscious mind.

3 Simple Strategies To Get You Feeling Confident Quickly:

1) Think specifically of the time/place/situation you want to feel confident in. Remember 'confidence' doesn't mean anything until you attach it to something specific.

2) Focus on words in your mind right now that describe how you do want to be in that time and place. Maybe words such as 'calm', 'relaxed' or 'focused'. Remember your brain works on clear positive instructions.

3) Close your eyes for as long as you like and think about how those words feel. Then, imagine the situation itself and rehearse it in your mind feeling confident and relaxed. This way you set the right blueprint or 'task' for your unconscious mind.

You can repeat this often to make it more effective and use it with as many areas of your life as you need to. If you listen to a hypnotic cd or download that can make the benefits even more powerful (see my profile below). So if you feel like you'd be blessed with less confidence than some other people you can start redressing the balance by using your mind in the right way right now.

It took me years to learn how to be more confident - now you can do it in a fraction of the time. Good luck!

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Article by Mark Tyrrell of Hypnosis Downloads.com.

7 Ways To Soothe Your Shyness

Shy people instinctively know that they are missing out. Shyness equals lost opportunities, less pleasure and fewer social connections. Shyness can be crippling but there are tried and tested ways to make it a thing of the past.

When I was fifteen I was shy. I recall an attractive girl attempting to engage me in conversation. My shyness made me focus on me instead of her. I heard my own voice but not hers and I thought about what I was trying to say instead of what she was trying to say.

The formula for shyness is "too much focus on the self" plus anxiety. To make it even more unpleasant, sometimes when you are feeling shy you experience physical sensations which 'hijack' your calm logical self.

My pulse raced, my mouth dried up and I felt like the village idiot! I couldn't think what to say so I said nothing apart from making barely audible grunting noises! Cary Grant eat your heart out! When I detected pity in her eyes (or was it contempt, or boredom) I mumbled my excuse and got out of there. I hated being shy and was determined to change it.

How shyness is developed and maintained

Shyness really is a combination of social anxiety and social conditioning. To overcome shyness you need to learn to relax socially. This enables you to direct your attention away from yourself and gives you the space to practice certain conversational skills. In most cases, the heightened emotions of socializing when young simply condition the sufferer to respond to social events with fear, instead of excitement and pleasure.

Relaxed socializing is so pleasurable, not to say productive, but it is an advantage denied to many until they learn to relax. To start reducing your own shyness, I want you to absorb the following tips and ideas and start to put them into practice:

1) Think about the way you feel and behave around familiar people you are comfortable and spontaneous around. It's that feeling transferred to new people and situations that equates to your emerging social confidence.

2) Focus your attention away from yourself. Sure, you can think a little bit about how you are coming across, but if all your focus is on your own words and feelings then you might as well be by yourself. Notice what other people are wearing and make a mental note, listen to their conversation, imagine where they might live, make a point of remembering names. Not only does this give you more to talk about, it also 'dilutes' social anxiety leaving you feeling calmer.

3) Ask people open questions. Many people like to talk about themselves and will find you interesting if you find them interesting. Ask questions that require more than a 'yes'/'no' response such as 'What do you like about this place?' rather than: 'Do you like this place?' Once they've answered use 'add-on' questions connected to the first such as: 'What other places do you like in this city.?' Next you can express your views. This is a great way to get the conversation going. If the conversation doesn't 'take' then no matter, you've done your bit.

4) Stop trusting your imagination so much! Have you ever had an imaginary picture in your mind of a holiday destination only to arrive and find the reality is different from the way you had imagined? That's how reliable imagination is. Stop imagining what others think. I do lots of public speaking and I've long since stopped trying to second guess what others think of me - it's just too painful. Besides, what a person thinks about you has a lot more to do with who they are than who you are.

5) Stop using 'all or nothing' thinking. The 'completely this/completely that' style of thought occurs when you are emotional. People who are depressed, angry or anxious see reality in terms of differing extremes, simplistic all or nothing terms. An angry person is 'right' and you are 'wrong'; the depressed person feels like a 'failure' while others are a 'success'. In reality, life is composed of infinite gray areas. So stop fearing that you might say the 'wrong' thing! Or that people will 'hate' you. Once you start to relax more socially you'll notice much less black or white thinking because anxiety actually causes you to think in all or nothing terms.

6) Take your time. You don't have to blurt things out. Ask questions and if questions are asked of you can take time to consider your response (within reason). Don't just blurt out what you think might be the 'right' answer. A slow answer is a relaxed answer.

7) Finally, use hypnotic rehearsal. Hypnosis is the quickest way to change your instinctive/emotional response to any situation. Only think about meeting others when your mind and body is relaxed. This conditions you to associate relaxation with being around new people. In fact you'll find that when you relax deeply enough often enough whilst hypnotically rehearsing being comfortable around others you'll reach the point where you just can't be shy any more! This is what I call a 'happy inability!'

I now love meeting new people and suspect that my current social confidence would be unrecognizable to my fifteen year old self.

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Article by Mark Tyrrell of Hypnosis Downloads.com.

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It's an awful thing to experience depression at any time but postnatal depression can be particularly difficult because of your new arrival.

Extreme exhaustion, apathy, tearfulness and self-reproach and guilt go hand in hand with the experience of postnatal depression.

Believe in yourself and fulfill your potential

Self belief, self confidence, self esteem... whatever you call it, when you believe in yourself life becomes much, much easier.

You achieve more, you have less anxiety and you grasp opportunities as they arise.

It is a wonderful feeling when you know you can stand by your decisions, rely on yourself in difficult situations and overcome obstacles.
 

Escape fear of rejection or abandonment and the damage they cause to relationships

Fear of rejection can come from many sources; from being rejected as a child, or feeling abandoned or unloved.

It can come from being repeatedly rejected in other situations, but regardless of the cause, it can create real problems in the ‘here and now’.

Fear of rejection can lead to obsessiveness, clinginess or jealousy in relationships.

It can make you become too serious too soon, driving others away.

It can cause you to reject others to avoid being rejected yourself; overall it is a very damaging pattern of emotion and behavior that can cause real hurt to relationships and your enjoyment life in general.

How to stop worrying today

The word 'worrying' comes from an old English word meaning to 'kill by strangulation' and that's how it feels. And stopping worrying can be hard - trying not to worry simply doesn't work.

As Mark Twain said: 'I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened'. Constant chronic worrying takes the very soul out of life, exhausts you and paralyzes your you - preventing you from actually solving problems.

Get a Millionaire Mind-Set

Everyone wants to be rich. Don't they? So why do only a few reach those heights? How do millions of people work their fingers to the bone yet end up broke?

It's not about luck

Most millionaires will tell you that luck played a large part in their success - and you could stop there, assuming that unless you get lucky, you won't get rich.

But then if you look a little deeper, you uncover something else - something all successful people have in common - the millionaire mind-set.

And even more interestingly, millionaires don't have much else in common - there's no standard for academic achievement - Richard Branson and many other entrepreneurs are dyslexic, there's no commonality of family background, there's no 'special knowledge' that these people possess.

It's about your mindset

No, when it comes down to it, success is down to your mindset - the habits, attitudes and behaviors you use every day that move you, step-by-step, towards millionaire status.